Self-Compassion Break
A few weeks back, we talked about self-compassion, a term coined by Kristin Neff to describe the way we can acknowledge our own suffering, almost as if we would a friend. To do so, we must have self-kindness rather than self-judgment; remember common humanity rather than become wrapped up in isolation; and remain mindful.
Today we will discuss strategies to build our own self-compassion and self-esteem. This can be done by learning and reading more about self-compassion (see the resources section at the end of this post) and watching videos about research. We can also do formal and informal self-compassion practices to build mindful habits and become comfortable treating ourselves with kindness. Engaging in these exercises familiarizes us with the concept of self-compassion and builds overall awareness and mindfulness in our lives. The more we practice being kind to ourselves, the more we increase the habit of self-compassion.
Find other self-compassion practices here: Self-Compassion Exercises by Dr. Kristin Neff
Check out some tips for these practices here: Tips for practice - Self-Compassion
How to Increase Self-Compassion
The Self-Compassion break is a common practice that incorporates the three elements of self-compassion and helps us build resilience in the face of challenges. Take about 5 minutes to recall a recent situation in life that caused stress (if you’re new to this, something that caused mild to moderate distress, rather than completely overwhelming). Bring this situation to mind and think about what did, or could have, happened.
How did that feel? What other kind or self-love statements could you come up with that may be more meaningful to you?
Practicing this self-compassion break in calm times can help you become familiar with the practice and build your confidence in using it during times of stress.
Ready to learn more about self-compassion and cultivate it in your own life? Contact Kara to schedule an appointment! Don’t hesitate to call or email now!
Sources:
Neff, Kristin. Self-compassion: Stop Beating Yourself Up and Leave Insecurity Behind. New York: William Morrow, 2011.
Neff, Kristin, and Christopher K. Germer. The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook: A Proven Way to Accept Yourself, Build Inner Strength, and Thrive. , 2018. Print.
Self-Compassion Self-Help Resources - Information Sheets & Workbooks (health.wa.gov.au)
Fierce Self-Compassion: A Conversation With Kristin Neff | Psychology Today
https://www.mindfulnessstudies.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/09/Self-Compassion_and_Mindfulness.pdf
Guided Meditations and Exercises (centerformsc.org)
Why Self-Compassion Trumps Self-Esteem (berkeley.edu)
Greater Good in Action (berkeley.edu)
Tara Brach Leads a Guided Meditation: The RAIN of Self Compassion - YouTube
